i've always eschewed the term "it is what it is." i held tight to alternate responses that have worked in my favor and allowed me to take some of the most rewarding risks in my life. it is also a response that has prompted me to react too quickly, without thought of the consequences and eventually laid my head on a pillow full of regret.
i suppose a balance of rationality and spontaneity can lead to positive outcomes without having to avert to the despised saying of "it is what it is." but ultimately, this life, your life, is yours and the only one you've got. is it going to be "just is what it is?" or will fear of the immediate hurt and pain be overcome by assurance of a life your core knows is better and waiting for you? i can't assure you of either answer. i can only ask the question and hope that you find the path that works best for you. and my wasted heart will forever hope that i'm apart of your path. so that my life....my outcome....doesn't become "just is what it is."
but i'll be okay if that's who i am in your outcome. sometimes my idealistic heart gets ahead of me...or so i've been told. i'll be okay with "it just is what it is" ....and feel rest assured that in some circumstances it really "just is what it is."
I really connect with this piece. Many times (too many) I throw "it is what it is" into the ring so that I don't have to fight. I even use it to tuck away real thought that I don't have the energy to deal with in moments. It allows me to cower from myself, others and circumstance. For me, the struggle sometimes is revisiting whatever "it" is, digging my hands deep in "it" and dealing with "it" at some point. Interesting, Mollikins...thanks for making me look inward, again - LOL!
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